Blog Post by Xandria Ooi – Our favourite Super Chic Motivational Speaker
When we go into a relationship, when we marry someone… it’s because they give us so much happiness, they bring so much joy into our lives.
When we fall in love, every other kind of happiness we’ve ever felt might pale in comparison; so much so that we settle on this one thought: This person makes me happy.
But that’s not true. YOU made yourself happy. You made the choice to allow yourself to open up to someone incredible. You made the decision to commit to someone whom you feel extremely connected to. You made the choice to stick in there even when the person has hurt you.
Nobody can MAKE us happy, we have always been the one who has brought happiness into our own lives.
If you’re feeling happy because you have great friends, it’s because you have chosen to surround yourself with genuine, generous and loving people. If you’re feeling happy because you have a great family, it’s because you have chosen to be consciously grateful for them.
Similarly, nobody can make us UNhappy. No wife, no husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, family or friend can make us unhappy.
We have always been the only one who can cause our own suffering, our own unhappiness; because it is always our reaction to the circumstances that dictates whether we feel happy or not.
It’s never what happens or who happened, but how we handle it. It’s also not who we have or don’t have in our lives, because we cannot have a healthy relationship until we know that our happiness can not be given to us by someone else.
We don’t expect people to lose weight for us, so why would we expect people to make us happy? We’ve got to do that ourselves.
It’s perfectly NORMAL to feel unhappy sometimes, to be affected by people and things, but once our mind is tuned to the fact that our happiness is not out there somewhere, but IN US, we can very easily let go and find our balance again. Nobody can make happy, but you can always, always make yourself happy. Be happy, always.
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